It isn’t easy to be living our lives from one day to another in our world of parental alienation. Sometimes, just from one moment to another one. We, alienated parents, see the bigger picture of our situation. But what about our next step? And what about doing that next step? When all around us seems to be so dark and heavy. And we feel not to have the life force necessary for doing anything, let alone the next step. Or we deadly fear doing it to the point that we do not do it at the end.
When we feel exhausted from the parental alienation battles, we might not be helpful to ourselves, our lawyers, to the experts who work with us or to judges who try the best they can to figure out our situation. And in the end, we are not helpful to our children, too.
We feel as if we abandoned ourselves, our true selves.
STRENGTH OF YOUR CORE SELF
The true self is who you are when you are in yourself, your inner you. Where there is peace and tranquillity, there is the place where your heart is. Your heart is your mothership, your guide in life. And your vital energy, as your life force, is your wind in the heart’s sails.
Therefore you need your energy to lead your life in the direction your heart is guiding you. Therefore your energy is vital for you to do what you want. In the parental alienation situation, you want your children. You have to do whatever is necessary to regain them.
Parental alienation situation is modern vampirism on the energy level. More closely said – it is EMOTIONAL VAMPIRISM.
What the alienator wants is your energy. He feeds himself on it. That is his life force, his life’s supply. He knows what a good supply of energy you are. That is the reason why the child is taken hostage so that you come back to him. The child is the victim, too. The alienator needs that energy too. But for him, that is not enough. The alienator needs a constant and good supply of energy as food, and that is you. You provided him before with that food. And he needs it again and again and again. As long as you provide him with what he wants and needs, it will be a never-ending story.
The alienator and the target parent are connected through the invisible bond. And they even do not have to be in any contact so that the transfer of the energy goes from one person to another. As long as the alienator succeeds in implementing his existence in the head of his victim, he is rooted there as a thought. And the energy is leaking out of the victim, draining him of his life force.
Very powerful stuff. Very dangerous stuff. If an expert who works with us, alienated parents, does not understand this POWER GAME, he will not understand the victim’s fear and obstacles in his head.
You need to keep your energy to yourself. It is your life force, the force to help you deal with your life.
To keep your energy for yourself, you need to do two things.
One is TO SEAL THE RUPTURES where your vital energy, LIFE FORCE, LEAKS from you into the outer world. And from there, it is snatched by the others.
The other one is TO PROTECT YOUR BORDERS in order not to be invaded by the other people’s behaviours you do not want to tolerate in your life, the behaviours which are damaging to you.
RUPTURES, INNER WOUNDS
Your ruptures are your wounds. Your inner wounds. The places are unarmed and soft. Those wounds are from the previous battles in this life. Or from the earlier lives, lives of your ancestors, written in your DNA.
It is up to you, as a grown-up person now, to deal with these ruptures, with your wounds. You can be careless and do nothing. But then don’t complain that the others take advantage of your wounds and take your energy from you.
Or be responsible for taking care of yourself.
To know how to secure your borders is to understand what you want and what you do not want in your life. Consequently, that is what you will not tolerate in your life and therefore will not hurt you in your life. Consequently, you will not have ruptures and wounds in your defence system.
WHO IS RESPONSIBLE FOR THAT JOB?
It is up to you to secure THE SECURITY OF YOUR HOME, of your inner self. Only you can do the job, nobody else. It is up to you to heal the wounds and secure your inner self, to have peace and tranquillity of your soul. As a result, you can contemplate your life’s mission in this world without distractions and interruptions from outside. So that you can devote your life to yourself and to the cause you came here to complete.
That means to be responsible for yourself.
HOW TO REACH THAT STATE?
To enter the courtroom or any other room of your life, calmly and stress-free, you must align yourself with your inner strength, wisdom, and faith. That is what comes from your inner you.
How to reach that state?
There are many techniques, solutions and methods. Every one of us should find his way.
What ParentalAlienationHealing.com is about, is taking care of yourself FIRST. So that only having being healed and nourished, you can protect your child. It is YOUR OBLIGATION to yourself and the child.
You are a healthy parent. And the sane one. But exhausted, disoriented, in need of focus and clarity. And calmness. You need to re-take the wheel of your car in your hands and drive your life back on the track where your heart leads you – to your children.
You need to breathe in and exhale. And to breathe in again. And continue doing that to be able to stand on your feet again.
tionHealing.com is about, is taking care of yourself FIRST. As only healed and nourished, you can protect your child. It is YOUR OBLIGATION to yourself and the child.
You are a healthy parent. And the sane one. But exhausted, disoriented, needing focus and clarity. And calmness. You need to re-take the wheel of your car in your hands and drive your life back on the track where your heart leads you – to your children.
You need to breathe in and exhale. And breathe in again. And continue doing that to be able to stand up on your feet again.
On that path, you will not be alone. Throughout ParentalAlienationHealing.com I will be next to your side. I will be your host and guide along the way through the beautiful sessions with powerful Parental Alienation Healing / PAH techniques – Reiki and Ho’oponopono. And through the PAH Intention Group. To support you and empower you so that you are strong and courageous for the next level of your life.
That is my mission and my joy…to see you rise and shine again.